Friday, March 04, 2005

This blog is a whine-free zone, starting now

I’ve never thought of myself as a whiny person. I hate whiners. So I was a little shocked when a friend told me to quit whining about being single the other day.

“Look,” he said. “Even the people who read your blog tell you to stop whining whenever you write about your love life. Seriously, it’s not attractive.”

Ouch. Pretty harsh words. I don’t think I’m that whiny about my non-existent love life but looking back at some of my posts -- and the comments they generated -- I guess he has a point.

So, as of right now, I promise to never again write about the lame guys in Vancouver and how hard it is to get a quality date here (did that sound whiny?). I am waving the white flag high above my head. I surrender.

No more complaining. I’m happy and healthy and fit. I have an awesome family and wonderful friends. I’m educated and smart. I have a great career and hobbies that I’m passionate about. But I’d still like to meet Mr. Right. And if I don’t, well, you’ll never have to hear me whine about it in this space again!


Kathryn said...

I like your "whining" --- it makes me feel better to know that there is another fabulous (that's what my freinds tell me, anyway) woman out there as frustrated with the quality of available Vancouver men out there as me!


Sarah said...

Well, I'm going to try to not whine so much. Maybe I just need to be more balanced about the tone of my rants.

Trust me, you are not the only fabulous woman in Vancouver frustrated with the quality of the guys out here. It's actually kind of unnatural how many amazing single women there are out here. This place is a guy's paradise.


Anonymous said...

I suggest that you write you want to write about instead of listening to other people whine about how they don't like some aspect of your blog. Why do they keep on reading it if they don't like what you write?

By definition a blog is a record of your thoughts, personal experiences and view of the world. Write whatever you feel like writing about and don't worry so much about what other people think. -K

Taffy said...

I agree with K. It's your blog and you can write about whatever you want.

taminator1969 said...

FWIW, I don't think it's whining at all. Blogs can be glimpses into people's lives and we should be grateful that some are willing to share their thoughts with us.

If people don't want to read about the so-called whining, I'm quite sure there are thousands of other blogs out there in cyberspace that are not as open, honest or sincere.

Brian Lavery said...

LAME?? Ouch! That hurts!
ha ha

Brian Lavery said...

LAME?? Ouch! That hurts!
ha ha

Carrie said...

Hell, it's not whining. It's sociologically reflecting on your life.;-) Ditto what everyone else said. People like to read what is familiar and that which they can relate to. So write whatever your little heart desires. :-)

Sarah said...

Woo hoo! I have more people telling me they don't mind my whining than people who do. And you're saying it's not whining at all?

I agree! I should write about whatever I want to write about. And I do. Thanks people!


Bill Doskoch said...

Have you considered that maybe, just maybe that suggests you have a bunch of schadenfreude-loving visitors to your blogspace? :)

Although the blog promises a "whine-free zone," you also changed your profile slightly to read:

Part granola, part urban princess. I am fun, fearless and fiercely independent. Sort of like a Cosmo Girl, but without make-up, money or a man.

I would argue that's cheating. :)

Bill D.

Sarah said...

Darn. I thought I could slip that in there without anyone noticing ;)

But I did it in a non-whiny way, right? It's factual and objective. That's not whining.

What's better, angry & bitchy or whiny?

Sarah "confused about what her blog readers want so is going to continue to write about whatever she feels like" Marchildon

Bill Doskoch said...

In fairness, had you written "... without a man (insert self-pitying 'poor me' sigh here)," that would be whining. :)

Angry and bitchy vs. whiny?

I think I would lean towards the latter -- although it would depend on the type of anger and bitchiness.

Bitchiness can easily morph into to whininess.

But getting angry about the right things and speaking your mind about it is, to me, not necessarily a bad thing. And if it leads to action, even better.

Whining about stuff, OTOH, implies a certain passivity and suggests a person doesn't want to get off their keister and do something about it.

Those would be my deep thoughts on that topic. :)

Sarah said...

I'm no whiner, and I'm not a bitch. I'm not an angry person either but things do make me angry sometimes.

Where does that leave me? Don't know. Those are my "deep" thoughts on that for the day.

Bill Doskoch said...

Hey Sarah:

Well, I was thinking of all three emotional states as relatively short term -- and I was making a general statement, and not talking about anyone in particular.

I'm getting the impression you took my words personally. Sorry, that's not the way they were meant.

But moving back to the general, if a person is always angry, always bitching or always whiny ... well. :)

I knew one person who would say, "I never get angry." Oh really?!?!

To me, a certain amount of venting is good.

And on some topics, a blog can be a good place to do it!

Sarah said...

No, no, didn't take it personally.'s so hard to convey tone over the internet.

As for people who claim they don't get angry...they make me angry! Serenity now!